3. Do More Exciting Things Together
Another 2000 study by Aron and colleagues, which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, put couples into two groups. One group was asked to do a “boring” task like walk together, while the other group was told to do a more “exciting” one like complete an obstacle course while being Velcroed together. Each couple was measured for relationship satisfaction before and after they completed the task. The researchers discovered that couples who did more exciting tasks were found to be much more satisfied in their relationship than those who didn’t. So it’s not just about trying new things, but being a little more adventurous as well.
4. Actively Work On Keeping Your Sex Life Fresh
A 2017 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that couples who believe that a healthy sex life takes work are much more satisfied with their sex lives and relationships than those who think good sex should just happen naturally. In a series of studies and experiments that involved about 1,900 participants in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships, researchers found that having “implicit beliefs” that sex should be good if you find the right partner is simply inaccurate. Those who believed in this sort of “sexual destiny” were more likely to get bored of their sex lives and relationships much faster.
As lead study author Jessica Maxwell said in a press release, “Your sex life is like a garden. It needs to be watered and nurtured to maintain it.” So if you want to prevent boredom both inside and outside of the bedroom, remember that good sex takes work.