Our society has gotten used to making rules about what we should do to be happy in a marriage. But some psychologists say that we created lots of myths, which actually interfere with balanced relationships. In this article, you will find some of them and, probably, have a fresh new view of family life.
We try to study how to build healthy relationships from different angles and hope that the professional opinion of therapists John M. Gottman and Larry Shushansky will be useful for you.
1. Your spouse should be your best friend and there should be a deal between the 2 of you.
Some research shows that close relationships affect our sense of well-being. There can be different ways of connecting for a couple. But still, therapists say that there is no such rule that says that your partner should be your best friend or a person who literally knows everything that’s going on with you. And they shouldn’t scratch your back each time you ask them to.
It is okay to have some space and gossip with your childhood friend, instead of your spouse. You should have the relationship you both desire and believe is healthy.
2. Having to work hard in a relationship means you’re with the wrong person.
If your marriage is not a fairytale, it’s totally normal. A relationship is a journey and if a couple is together for a long time and still happy, it means there has been a lot of work put into it.
We all have issues, but self-awareness helps us get to a new level. Being stuck on the thought that your partner doesn’t understand you won’t lead to anything. Even if there is some discomfort, it’s totally fine. Just work on it. There is no Mr. or Mrs. Right.