Sometimes the way we behave or the things we say can push people away. It might be some of your traits you’re not proud of and want to change. Or, on the contrary, it might be something you see as positive, and the reason it puts certain people off is the way they perceive you.
In any case, we feel it’s important to be aware of those traits that might intimidate others. As a bonus, at the end of the article, we’ll also tell you what changes you can make in your behavior in order to maintain good relationships with your friends and colleagues.
1. You’re brutally honest.
Honesty is one of the defining characteristics of your personality. You like to be honest with people, even if it sometimes means telling the hard truth or being blunt and hurting someone. You feel that it’s the right thing to do, to speak your mind, rather than sugarcoat things or lie.
2. You don’t like small talk.
You don’t like wasting your time chit-chatting with people about the weather, how their weekend was, or any other subject people usually discuss just to be friendly and polite. Small talk seems pointless to you, and you’d rather get straight to the point and discuss things that are really important or have a meaningful conversation.
As a result, you either just skip the pleasantries or you don’t talk at all to the people you know you won’t have an engaging conversation with. And that’s why you might come across as rude or cold.