Some people say that understanding the inner workings of a woman is “terra incognita”, otherwise known as unknown territory. Of course, women can be full of mystery and contradictions, but perhaps it wouldn’t be that way if a man were more attentive and observant of her needs and wants. Believe us, you don’t have to read minds like Mel Gibson did in the film, “What Women Want”. Understanding your partner just takes a little common sense.
We invite you to take a closer look at your female friends by paying closer attention to her daily habits, desires and weaknesses to help you to understand each other on a deeper level. Stay tuned until the end of this article, where we learn about an anthropologist who says a person’s body can actually say a lot about their character.
1. What are her life values?
A person’s life values serve as their internal compass, pointing them in the right direction throughout their life. What does your female friend or girlfriend value? What does she want from life? What are her goals?
Does she prefer to spend the evening with a martini in hand alongside her friends? Or perhaps she’d rather catch a movie with you? Does she want to shop for a new couch or go abroad for the weekend? Your future together can be based on the decisions that she is making now and how you impact them. Pay attention to her actions, not her words to help you understand what kind of person she is.
It’s okay if your life views are a little bit different. But if your girlfriend wants to become a diplomat and go around the world while you desire to live in a small cozy house with a couple of kids right after the wedding, you should be prepared to discuss the types of compromises you’d be willing to make for your future.
2. Does she like planning or being spontaneous?
Think about the way your girlfriend spends her day off. Does she plan everything beforehand or does she do everything in the spur of the moment? Does she change her schedule easily or does she stick to the plan she jots down in her calendar?
If you never know what to expect from your girlfriend, you might have a brighter and more spontaneous future. However, living only for today can prove to be a bit careless, which could mean you’d have a hectic life together with constant changes and nothing to depend on.
But even if your girlfriend is totally against surprises, it doesn’t mean she is boring and predictable. Just like many people do, some women like to abide by a schedule. Even if that’s the case, it never hurts to add a few unexpected and enjoyable events her life. American scientists have proven that one gets more pleasure from a spontaneous activity rather than from a planned one.
3. How does she react to trouble?
Life is a rollercoaster, full of ups and downs. No matter who you are, no one can completely avoid problems or trouble. It’s all about how you handle these challenges. How does your girlfriend handle a challenge?
Amy L. Eva, a psychologist from California University in Berkeley, says that stressful situations are an opportunity to learn something, mobilize your internal power, and become motivated to move forward. The most important thing to identify is the actual problem at hand and understand how severe it is. Is it burnt eggs, problems at work, or a flood in a different country? What does your girlfriend consider to be a major problem and how does she handle it?
She might just shrug her shoulders or she may cry, break plates or complain to her friends. While men and women can handle stress in different ways, it’s important to notice red flags like freaking out over minor problems that can easily be remedied.